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This was hyper-readable. I love that it was reported, too. I never read your original column - did not even know about it until now - but I look forward to reading your Substack.

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Nov 10Liked by Camille Sojit Pejcha

I remember the first time someone mentioned this re: Dolly Parton’s “Jolene,” and it just floored me. Listen to her describe Jolene’s physical attributes and tell me there’s nothing going on…

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Nov 12Liked by Camille Sojit Pejcha

That song was so spahhiccxx

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Oct 2Liked by Camille Sojit Pejcha

Beautifully written

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thank you <3

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Sep 27Liked by Camille Sojit Pejcha

Doesn't this just explain everything 🙈

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Nov 12Liked by Camille Sojit Pejcha

Oh this was such an interesting read 🤭🤭 thanks for the references too it’s nice to see the web notes of terms like comp het

While I’ve not directly been on this situation I

Do relate to being attracted to women I’ve been jealous of before and it feels like a canon event for queer women

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Nov 12Liked by Camille Sojit Pejcha

Loved this and simultaneously hated that it felt like yet another original experience was taken from me

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Nov 10Liked by Camille Sojit Pejcha

My first love was my ex-boyfriends ex-girlfriend! (He didnt make the cut) I’ve always had this weird attraction to my exes exes. Jealousy mixed with envy and attraction, for sure.

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Nov 10Liked by Camille Sojit Pejcha

I always thought this was an isolated incident for me, so i’m surprised its a rather common phenomenon, the sapphic aspect! Im so glad someone spoke on it, and relates, because I also always felt weird/creepy for it as well. I’m hoping that someday I share this kind of correspondence with the women i’ve been in similar positions with.

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so glad to hear it resonates with you! i felt the same way til i wrote about it, was honestly quite nervous to publish but then so many women messaged me to share they'd had similar experiences

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Oct 20Liked by Camille Sojit Pejcha

The only appropriate response to this post was to do a deep dive into your Instagram and I definitely have an even bigger crush than your writing initiated.

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u get it <3

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Oct 2Liked by Camille Sojit Pejcha

Some beautiful anthropology here. Thank you for sharing.

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i love that way of framing it!

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well, as the guy, I assure you there would be no desire after that thumbnail

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My wife is bisexual. (I asked her if I could share this.) Through my experiences with her, along with thinking about other experiences I’ve known, I’ve come to the conclusion that bisexuality is the default human condition for all but a very few. (This may be especially so for women.) Where each person falls on the spectrum between heterosexuality and homosexuality varies, of course. (Choices pertaining that, also of course, rightly belong to no one but the person themselves.)

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immediately this instantly reminds me of that novel - never ever getting back together by sophie gonzales

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